Deciding to get a divorce is not an easy process. Every party to a failed marriage will always get hurt no matter how much they make an effort to avoid it. “Conflict is typically healthy within a relationship as it can be productive in getting your needs met by your partner,” says Maureen Werrbach, MA, LCPC. “It’s how you deal with conflict that can potentially be problematic.” Many things could complicate a separation, one of which is finding out that you are pregnant. Sometimes, you thought that ending the marriage is the best solution to the marital problem. However, your pregnancy will change the situation. In this article, we are going to discuss the top reasons why you have to re-think filing for divorce now that you are about to give birth: Read more
Category: Pregnancy Care
There are many kinds of life-changing events that can happen in women, one of which is getting pregnant. Finding out that you are about to give birth soon is probably one of the best feelings in this world. Take note that having a new baby to come in your life is a God-given gift. However, if you recently just went through a breakup with the father of your child, it may feel that your world is falling apart, that the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Having all these emotions is normal, but it does not mean that you have to stay that way forever.
“So much attention is focused on the new life coming into the world that it’s easy for pregnant women to forget to check on their own psychological and emotional well-being,” said Kristen Scarlett, LMHC. “But pregnancy is an especially important time to stay on top of these issues, especially because so many unique challenges commonly arise.”
Are you going through a painful and difficult phase in your life right now? Do you feel sad about the situation that you are facing right now? Do you want to get some professional help so that you would start to feel better? Look for a psychiatrist as soon as possible. This individual can help you deal with the issues in your life. Before you engage the services of this individual, be sure to ask these questions first:
Finding out that you are pregnant is the best thing that can ever happen to a woman. Everything starts to become so much more exciting especially if you are going to become a first-time mom. With this great news also come some significant changes in your lives. Expect a lot of things to change the moment you begin to carry your child for the next nine months of your life. Because of this, it is necessary that you prepare yourself for anything that may come your way.
The last few weeks of pregnancy may be very intense on so many levels. You may receive a lot of pampering from your husband and other family members who can’t wait to see the new child in your household. At the same time, however, you can experience Braxton Hicks contractions, indigestion, and various sources of distress that can make even sleeping – the best relaxation possible – difficult. If it gives you any relief, realize that most, if not all, pregnant women bear with these situations. They come with the territory, without a doubt. But that doesn’t mean that there’s no way for you to avoid or lessen the issues. “Researching and understanding what to expect during the third trimester can help reduce any anxiety you may have during the final stages of your pregnancy.” Debra Rose Wilson, PhD says. Seek ways to survive the waiting game in the third trimester below.
Go To A Chiropractor One of the biggest dilemmas that expectant mothers face is back pain. Rather than ebbing away, it only intensifies the closer you get to your due date. What may help you is receiving treatments from a chiropractor. This health professional can perhaps adjust your spinal column so that it doesn’t get pulled in by your growing belly. According to a study conducted by Dr. Irvin Henderson MD, “Women who received chiropractic adjustments in their third trimester were able to carry and deliver their child with much more comfort.”
Elevate Your Upper Body When Lying Down Considering the belly stays very round, not low-looking, it entails that the fetus can still be pressing on your ribs and organs. That can cause heartburn often and make sleeping a challenge. Thus, you have to lie down with plenty of pillows supporting your upper back and head to prevent that issue.
Stay Active Exercising is highly essential at this point in your pregnancy because it’s almost time for the baby to pop out. That isn’t easy for everyone, especially if you didn’t move a lot for months and your muscles and joints are stiff. Walking around the neighborhood can get you started; afterward, you may try swimming, aerobics, and yoga. Just ensure, though, that your OB-GYN approves your exercise of choice. “Prenatal exercise may reduce the amount of glucose and fats mothers make available to their babies, helping them grow more optimally,” explains Dana Dabelea, MD, PhD.
Talk To Your Family Members About The Baby’s Arrival The most important person to speak with about it in your brood is your husband. You need to both be on the same page, so feel free to tell him what you want him to do as you’re pushing the child out. Then, if you have other kiddos, assure them that the new baby won’t lessen your love for them. It may be the best time too to talk to your parents, siblings, or whoever will look after your children as you stay inside the hospital for a few days.
Plan Your Ideal Birthing Process In case you already watched women delivering their child in preparation for your own, you know that you don’t need to merely check in the hospital and leave once the doctor gives you and your infant an all-clear signal. You can, in fact, ask someone to decorate the room like what you do at birthday parties while you’re in there. It’s possible as well to opt for no epidural and choose a different birthing method. The specialist cannot guarantee that everything will go according to plan when it’s showtime, but it’s OK to think of such things when you’re still not in labor.
Pregnancy is magical, in my opinion. You only need a single sperm to fertilize an egg cell that’s approximately 0.2 millimeters in size. From that, the fetus grows until you have a baby with distinct features, full organs, and the ability to become the next president of a company or a country.
Pregnancy comes with a lot of concerns for a mom-to-be. “One psychologist I spoke with recently said that when she became a clinical psychologist, she thought she’d see mainly postpartum depression. Instead, she sees mostly prenatal anxiety,” shared Dawn Kingston, PhD.
Do you know the benefits of having Braxton Hicks contractions? Many of the pregnant women I came across for years only thought of it as an unpleasant part of carrying a baby. Even I had the same idea about it the first few times I got it. When you assume it’s time to pop out your child, the tightening sensation goes away, leaving you with disappointment. But what I understand now about false labor is that it’s your body’s way of giving you a taste of what’s to come during the actual birthing day.
Though it kicks in at the most unexpected times, you should honestly be thankful that you experienced the Braxton Hicks pre-delivery. This way, you won’t go into shock once you feel the real contractions. With that in mind, however, you can still try your hardest to deal with the false labor efficiently.
The ultimate thing you need to do stat is to put away all your tasks so that you will be able to concentrate on resting. Your body works too much already by supporting the child in your tummy; it will surely be a pain to obsess about the business, dirty laundry, and meal preparation too. It can take a lot out of your plate if you go on maternity leave at least two months before the due date. You can also ask someone to do the household chores temporarily on your behalf, and have your husband take care of and bring your bigger kids to school.
You tend to lose more water within your system in comparison with a non-pregnant individual since you pee a lot. Most of the fluids go towards your child’s growth as well; that’s why lacking hydration can cause Braxton Hicks contractions, or worse, congenital disabilities. A sad example of hydrating your cells is drinking soda and coffee. Though they’re delicious, the said beverages drain water out of your body too. Instead, you can benefit from fruits, fresh juices, decaffeinated herbal teas, and regular H2O.
Have A Luxurious Bath
Assuming you’re too far along to move so much, a warm – not hot – bath for less than half an hour may help alleviate the sensations of false labor. Stress can bring out Braxton Hicks, you know. However, you are most likely to forget what tenses you up mentally and physically when you soak your tired self in the relaxing water. Other than the bubbling solution, feel free to add Epsom salts in the tub. You may also add essential oils, as well as light some scented candles to make the bath extra luxurious.
According to Michael J. Breus, PhD, “The warm water helps relax muscles and reduces pressure on the knees and joints, which allows the body to be fully supported. It increases circulation and reduces swelling and inflammation.”
Meditation does not only calm your spirit; it allows you to learn some breathing exercises too. According to Kristen Scarlett, LMHC, “While meditation and mindfulness may not combat severe symptoms, learning to tune into your thoughts and feelings may help you cope.”
“The type of controlled, relaxed breathing skills developed with regular meditation practice produces both immediate and long-term benefits,” wrote Thomas Rutledge, PhD. “Blood pressure and muscle tension also rapidly decline; thinking processes slow, enabling increased focus and concentration.” It matters to get the technique down so that you won’t freak out when you experience the fake contractions. While you sometimes want to hold your breath whenever the muscles tighten, enable yourself to go to zen mode to deal with Braxton Hicks well.
Empty Your Bladder
Urinating when your brain tells you to do so is very important. The heaviness of the uterus means it may always be in contact with the bladder. If the latter is full, it can add pressure on the former and maybe slightly push against it. That action can trigger false labor; that’s why you have to pee as often as possible.
Mothers have different things to say about pregnancy. Some women went through so much pain that they only want to experience childbirth once in this lifetime and discourage their colleagues from having kids. Other mamas, on the one hand, are more goal-oriented than that and don’t mind going through the process over and over if that means their brood will expand. Read more
Delivering a human being into the world is a unique experience for every mother. Dr. Elizabeth Pearce, PsyD explains that “Research shows that there are several personal factors, unique to each birthing person, that can affect how she experiences labor.” Some had it easy, to the extent that the baby’s head was out as soon as the water broke, indicating that he or she is ready to leave the womb stat. Others, however, can be in labor for over 24 hours and require medical intervention to birth the child successfully. Research shows that there are several personal factors, unique to each birthing person, that can affect how she experiences labor.Read more
In almost every article I wrote here about healthy pregnancy, I can’t tell how many times I recommended pulling all the stops and just relaxing until childbirth. Frankly speaking, it matters so much since your body is already working 24/7, ensuring that your unborn baby stays protected and nurtured in your womb. If you do other physically, emotionally, and mentally taxing activities outside of that, it may push your system to release more cortisol, which may be unfavorable in your current condition. Regardless of that, I know that it can’t be easy for everyone to lie-low and delegate most of their tasks to others from the beginning of the pregnancy. That’s often the case as well when you’re a team leader or the boss of a growing company. Thus, what I can advise is to take some precautionary measures to stay productive at work and taking care of the fetus in your tummy. Here’s how you can accomplish that.
Inform Colleagues About Your State The primary thing you’ll want to do is let your staff know that you’re in the family way. Some tend not to do that because they don’t wish others to see it as their handicap. However, it’s important to tell them the baby news immediately to avoid being in tight situations, e.g., having to work overtime, being around smoking people, etc.
“Dealing with the complete exhaustion of the first trimester was really the beginning of my realizing that my work–life balance was already starting to shift,” says Houston clinical psychologist Kay Hurlock Brumbaugh, PsyD.
Manage Stress Well Pregnancy is the best time to learn meditation and various breathing methods. You see, being able to quiet down your mind will allow you to handle stress efficiently. According to Christina G. Hibbert, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and expert in postpartum mental health. “Many women ignore or deny feelings of stress, but it simply piles up until you feel like you’re going to explode or implode.”
You’ll need that trick to stay zen – and sane – especially when you’re still not on maternity leave. Not to mention, it may come in handy once you go into labor.
Eat On Time Having to “eat for two” if you are pregnant is merely a myth. Despite that, however, make sure that you grab a bite often to stay healthy and active at work. The reason is that pregnancy itself causes your energy levels to deplete faster than usual. Once you have to move here and there and finish other tasks too during the day, you may feel exhausted before it’s even lunchtime. Again, it’s better to inform your colleagues about your condition early so that they won’t think you’re incompetent in keeping food on your desk at all times.
Get Rid Of Nauseous Stuff The first trimester can be challenging for working expectant mothers due to the hormonal changes you’re going through at the moment. It’s great if you have an office just for yourself. But in case you don’t, then you’ll have to deal with different smells and noises coming from the workers around you. What you may do at this point is to avoid the things that can make you nauseous. If you’re about to cross paths with someone eating a burrito or drinking coffee, for instance, and you know that even the sight of that can turn your stomach upside down, retreat until the coast is clear. The triggering factors are not the same for all, unfortunately, so you need to find what causes your morning sickness on your own. Walk Regularly Considering you have a desk job, it’s also necessary for you to have regular walks around the office. Walking is the most accessible type of exercise, to be honest. Not doing so may leave your ankles swollen or too unfit to even climb a single flight of stairs.
“Even if mothers were not active before becoming pregnant, they should strive to go on walks for at least 20 minutes, four times a week,” suggests Dr. Jennifer Wu, an OB-GYN at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York.